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Are You Wearing the "Okay" Mask in Your Relationships? It's Time to SNAP Out of It!
By Bridgette Morris
Do you often find yourself saying "okay" just to keep the peace in your relationship, even when you feel otherwise? You're not alone. Many of us wear the "okay" mask to avoid conflict or discomfort. But what if there's a better way to engage that doesn't involve sacrificing your true feelings? Let’s explore how transitioning from an Agree-er to a SNAP! Champion can empower you and transform your relationship dynamics.
Unmasking the Agree-er
The "Agree-er" is someone who often prioritizes harmony over expressing their genuine opinions or needs. While this might seem to make relationships smoother on the surface, it often leads to underlying tensions, unmet needs, and personal dissatisfaction.
The Journey to Becoming a SNAP! Champion
Step 1: Stop and Reflect Before automatically nodding along or muttering "okay," pause for a moment. Reflect on what you really think and feel about the situation.
Step 2: Notice Your Feelings Acknowledge your emotions without judgment. Are you frustrated, upset, or perhaps indifferent? Identifying your feelings is the first step towards understanding your true stance in any situation.
Step 3: Ask Why Why are you defaulting to agreement? Is it to avoid conflict, or because you feel your opinion isn’t valued? Asking "why" can help you uncover the root cause of your Agree-er behavior.
Step 4: Pivot to Authenticity Once you’ve recognized your patterns, start to pivot. This means expressing your true thoughts and feelings. Begin with small, non-confrontational issues to build your confidence in expressing yourself more authentically.
Step 5: Practice Regularly Consistent practice is key. The more you practice these steps, the more natural they will become, helping you to transform into a SNAP! Champion—a person who handles conflicts constructively and communicates openly and honestly.
Why Become a SNAP! Champion?
As a SNAP! Champion, you will:
Foster deeper and more meaningful relationships.
Experience increased self-respect and confidence.
Develop a stronger sense of personal integrity by aligning your outer words with your inner thoughts and feelings.
Conclusion
Shedding the "okay" mask doesn't mean you'll start disagreeing just for the sake of it. Instead, it's about finding a balance where you can express your true thoughts and feelings respectfully and constructively. By adopting the SNAP! method, you'll not only improve your relationships but also reconnect with yourself.
If you’re ready to dive deeper and truly transform how you interact in relationships, consider reaching out for a personalized session. At Healing Life Institute, we’re committed to helping you navigate these changes and support your journey toward becoming a SNAP! Champion. Click here to book a session.